Ok I can say I had these very thoughts while reading the books especially the Winterfall ends. All I can say (without spoiling things 😁) is that in real life relationships are messy, and more so with emotionally stunted people. Like Frather said above by the time you get to the end of the series you will understand her a lot more. Whether that changes your opinion or not, well thats up to you 😉. Keep reading and enjoy!